Surviving Divorce

You’re unhappy in your marriage and, after much soul searching, are coming to the realization that divorce may be your only route to a better, more authentic life. But where do you start, and how do you actually get divorced? The process of getting divorced includes a number of major steps all rolled into the […]

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  There is no single route through divorce. There’s no magic road map, perfect prescription, or foolproof method. Even the best experts cannot say “I know the way! Follow my guidance and do these specific steps in this exact order.”  Every divorce is unique, like a fingerprint. And only you know the true intricacies of […]

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Divorce can be traumatic and tumultuous. When people say that you need to “survive a divorce” they mean it! It’s like being the survivor of a tragedy, battle, or violent crime (sometimes all three rolled into one). Experts in post traumatic stress disorders (PTSD) now include experiencing any serious event, such as divorce, as one […]

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There it is: that horrible sinking feeling that divorce may be your only option…again. Plaguing you, inside your head, are many wild and disparate thoughts. You may be thinking that though it’s heart-wrenching and sad, it’s also reasonable to divorce the first time around. Maybe you got married very young; it was your “starter” marriage. […]

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Many of my clients go through their divorces later than I did (my first husband and I separated when I was 38). I learn from them what their concerns are, and how they differ from mine. What keeps them up at night? How do their older children or adult children handle the news? Do they […]

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Dear Me,

It’s all going to be okay. Things are totally crappy right now, but this moment, this feeling, is temporary. I’m not going to sugarcoat anything–the next few years will be more than challenging, and you will need to prepare yourself.

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